One of my weaknesses is that i am a pretty decent chap. I find it extremely difficult to hurt others because i am constantly looking at things from other people's perspectives. This also makes me quite agreeable too. I am usually very quiet during debates and do not jump into the fray unless asked for my personal opinion; in which case i curb my point of view with the aim of maintaining social & conversational equilibrium. This often makes it look as if i don't have an opinion; on the other hand, it gives me the uncanny knack of deescalating any tension that may have cropped up between people because i have the ability to keep all positions in a conflict on an even keel, while addressing and acknowledging the underlying needs that gave rise to them in the first place.
I do, however, have very strong principles and absolutely detest all forms of injustice. If i come across a rude, snide, abrasive or unjust act, behavior or attitude, i am quick to point out the infraction and try to reason out with the offender why his act was incorrect. Perhaps my greatest weakness is that if my reasoning fails to muster any ground with the offender, i forget my deescalation techniques and grow confrontational. This is the only time when I get into a verbal duel. But even though i have the ability to verbally decimate an opponent (which should seem utterly preposterous to the reader, owing to my poor english language skills), the need to maintain equilibrium far outweighs my will to win the duel; and i cut the fight short without a solution in sight. When i come across the person at a later point in time though, the infraction and partial duel, as far as i am concerned, is a thing of the past. In fact, i start off afresh as if nothing ever happened; because i genuinely bear no ill will towards the person; and because, the infraction, i believe, was momentary and not a general rule of thumb that can be used to define an individual with. However, if the person repeats his rude, abrasive or unjust behavior, i go through the same process mentioned above all over again; until such time that i believe that the abrasiveness is not a flash in the pan, nor is it capable of a cure.
Yup, these are huge weaknesses all right, and i need to work on them quite a bit.
Blogging though, is a very different story. I blog only to record my point of view on a myriad of subjects; and i am very well aware that i come across as abrupt and abrasive via this medium. I don't look at blogging as a social interface; and i have no problem with those who do.
I do, however, have very strong principles and absolutely detest all forms of injustice. If i come across a rude, snide, abrasive or unjust act, behavior or attitude, i am quick to point out the infraction and try to reason out with the offender why his act was incorrect. Perhaps my greatest weakness is that if my reasoning fails to muster any ground with the offender, i forget my deescalation techniques and grow confrontational. This is the only time when I get into a verbal duel. But even though i have the ability to verbally decimate an opponent (which should seem utterly preposterous to the reader, owing to my poor english language skills), the need to maintain equilibrium far outweighs my will to win the duel; and i cut the fight short without a solution in sight. When i come across the person at a later point in time though, the infraction and partial duel, as far as i am concerned, is a thing of the past. In fact, i start off afresh as if nothing ever happened; because i genuinely bear no ill will towards the person; and because, the infraction, i believe, was momentary and not a general rule of thumb that can be used to define an individual with. However, if the person repeats his rude, abrasive or unjust behavior, i go through the same process mentioned above all over again; until such time that i believe that the abrasiveness is not a flash in the pan, nor is it capable of a cure.
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Yup, these are huge weaknesses all right, and i need to work on them quite a bit.
Blogging though, is a very different story. I blog only to record my point of view on a myriad of subjects; and i am very well aware that i come across as abrupt and abrasive via this medium. I don't look at blogging as a social interface; and i have no problem with those who do.
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...this makes for a pretty good case study. what say all ye headhunters?
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